Wednesday, October 24, 2012

10 Tips To Sustain Your Marriage


You feel like you have met your soulmate. Everything you always dreamt of has finally come true. You marry and wait for the happily home. Somehow, the wait seems endless! With each passing day, you seem to be thinking about how to make your marriage work. No need to worry further, I bring you ideas for sustaining your relationship and help you fall in love all over again. Read on further to know the top 10 tips to sustain your marriage .

How To Make Your Marriage Work

i. Show Love
Never ever let love diminish from your lives. So what if you are busy with work and handling three jobs at a time? You are married to your beloved, not your work. Often people feel neglected as they feel their partner does not love them the way they used to . Even if it means saying a simple"I love you"with quick peck, make you sure you do it everyday. It works wonders and keeps you together even through the toughest times.

ii. Don't Nag
You have to understand that every person has a limit of tolerance. Once you push the person beyond that level, trouble occurs. Don't keep nagging your partner to do things the way you like to . Just because you are married to them does not mean they can't think or do things their way. Just say what you have in mind and wait for your partner to respond. You will be surprised to see the results.

iii. Respect your Partner
You give respect, you get respect. Don't forget he/she still has an individual identity, despite the fact that you are a couple. Respect your partner's feelings and you will have much more years of happiness in your life.

iv. Resolve Fights
Never ever leave fights or bitter arguments for the next time. Resolve your arguments and fights then and there. Do not be hesitate to say"sorry"if it is your mistake. You will see how easy it is to resolve fights and forgive each other and truly forget it. Do not bring up old issues, as it will unnecessarily complicate an already delicate situation. It is better to forgive and forget than fret forever!!

v. Communicate
Talk to each other as much as you can. It helps to bring two people closer and you get to understand each other better. Look at it this way. Some of the most amazing conversations you can think of have taken place with the one you love.

vi. Be Faithful
In order to keep a relation alive, you have to have faith and trust in your bloved. No one is perfect and you have to accept the other person just as he/she accepts you, with the positives and negatives. There is a very thin line of difference between trust and faith and it is very important to trust your partner and have faith in yourself to keep the relationship going.

vii. Compromises
Everyone is required to make compromises at some point in life. It is not possible to have everything that you desire for, at the expense of someone else. You have to adjust to make yourself and your partner happy. Rest assured that when time comes, he/she would go out of way to make you comfortable.

viii. Take a Break
Allot one day in a week that you will devote just for the two of you. It could be every Sunday and it need not be anything extravagant or too mushy. Just be with him/her for an entire day even if it means helping her with the dishes or watching a game with him.

ix. Special Days

Whatever you do, do not forget important dates. Remember birthdays and anniversaries. They are special days and every year they add another milestone to your relationship, reminding you that there are many more happy days to come.

x. Do Not Underestimate

Whatever your partner does to make you happy should be valued. Never underestimate the value or effort of your partner. It gives a bad face-off to your relationship. Just make your partner feel important and special, and you would be sailing on the ship of a happy marriage all your life!

14 Tips On How To Pick Between Two Men You Like


Some decisions are truly hard to make, and when you’re faced with two options in the dating game, it’s pretty important that you’re able to make the right choice.
you are smitten with two guys and you’re ready to settle with just one, here are some things to consider when making the choice.
Which guy makes you feel better?
When you’re out with each guy, listen to your heart and your gut feelings and see which one makes you feel the most liked and cared for.
Think about your future.
Think about what your future looks like and then see which guy best fits your plans.
Weigh the attractiveness.
If one guy is much more attractive to you than the other, take that into consideration.
Compare their efforts.
Has one of the guys put more effort and time towards dates and being together? This could be a deciding factor.
Ask your friends and family.
You don’t want your friends and family to have too much of a say but if you’re having a hard time deciding, ask for some advice. It’s never a bad idea to have outside opinions.
Who is more compatible with you?
With any relationship, compatibility is a must. Analyze both of the guys and decide which one is more like you.
Who is better in bed?
Okay so bedroom activities shouldn’t be the basis of your relationship, but which guy really gets you going in the sheets?
Make a list of the pros and cons.
Take some time and make a list of the pros and cons of both guys. Which guy has the most pros?
Could you see yourself loving one of the guys?
If you’re looking to seriously date, think about which guy you think you could fall in love with.
Money talks.
Does one of the guys have a more stable well-paying job? Money isn’t everything but it can make a difference in the long run.
Who crosses your mind more?
Surely you think about both guys, but it’s likely that you think about one of them more often than the other.
Does one seem more willing to be exclusive?
Has either one of the guys mentioned going exclusive? If so, take that as a huge hint.
Who have you known the longest?
Being friends and getting to know a guy for a few months is helpful when it comes time to taking it to the next level. If you’ve known one of the guys much longer than the other, keep it in mind.
Decide if choosing is an absolute must.
There’s nothing wrong with playing the field and if you’re not completely ready to settle down and be exclusive with one of the guys, don’t.

12 Reasons Why Women Can't Stand Nice Guys



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Women say they want a nice guy, yet usually end up dating bad boys. Here's why.
Not real: Nice guys are too nice. No one can always be that nice unless they’re a saint. They are busy being nice instead of being real and women instinctually don’t trust that. Bad boys “keep it real”. Nice guys don’t want to upset the apple cart.
Respect: No one respects a doormat. Nice guys don’t set boundaries or make any real demands. A bad boy doesn’t let a woman walk all over him or control him. Women can’t respect a man they can control. No respect = No attraction.
Predictable: Most people lead boring, predictable lives, so they’re attracted to people who are exciting and a bit unpredictable. Bad boys are always a challenge. Nice guys are never a challenge. Predictable + No excitement + No challenge = I prefer a bad boy.
Mother Nature: Women are designed to nurture. However, instead of doing this with children, they often end up doing it with bad boys. They think that will save them. Nice guys rarely need to be saved.
Fixer-Upper: Nice guys don’t usually need to be fixed. Bad boys usually do, so they become a project. Women think if they can “create” the perfect man, he will never leave them. Also, if they’re busy fixing someone else, they don’t have to look at what needs to be fixed in their own lives. 
Sperm wars: Women are designed to procreate with the strongest possible genes. Bad boys are sending an unconscious message that they have great genes, so they’re not afraid of losing the woman by misbehaving. Nice guys are sending a message that they don’t think their genes are good enough, so they won’t misbehave.
Fear of intimacy: If a woman is afraid of intimacy, she subconsciously knows she can avoid it with a bad boy, since she can never get close enough to him to have to go there. A nice guy will eventually want a commitment, and that’s scary.
Low self-esteem: We don’t feel comfortable with people who treat us better than we treat ourselves. If you don’t think much of yourself, the bad boy is simply reinforcing your negative belief. A nice guy is treating you in a way you’re not familiar with.
Sex: Women feel a nice guy won’t be good in bed. They sometimes like to be manhandled and think a nice guy won’t be able to take control and get the job done. A bad boy comes across as being able to deliver, even though that may not always be the case.
Hot: Have you ever seen a bad boy who wasn’t hot? I’m sure there are a few, but they wouldn’t be able to get away with half the stuff they did if they didn’t look so good. Meanwhile, when a woman describes someone as a nice guy, she means, “He’s not hot”.

13 Signs That Your Friend Is In Love With You


13 Signs That Your Friend Is In Love With You
Here are some common simple signs to detect if your friend likes you more than a friend.

 

1. Your friend is very happy and lively when you are together. You can see it on his or her eyes.

2. Your friend is always available for you, he or she will even cancel an appointment for you.

3. Your friend is excited when you made a phone call, he or she will not even attempt to cut you phone conversation.

4. Your friend is always looking for you without any reason.

5. Your friend will ask you who is your crush or what do you want to a boy or girl, and if you ask why, your friend will just tell you that someone was asking.

6. Your friend is inviting you to eat outside or watch movies together.

7. Your friend will try to make you jealous to know if you care.

8. Your friend will do the things you like even though he or she doesn’t do that before. Your friend will only do that because of your company.

9. Your friend was touching you or holding your hands.

10. Your friend was asking about your family and yourself and your plans in the future.

11. Your friend will not run out of questions and stories for you. Even if your friend is a shy type, your friend will make a way to have something to talk about, even if its repeated many times.

13. You will catch your friend staring at you. Because when a person is in love, it’s very difficult to control looking at someone he or she likes.

After you see the signs and If you like your friend to be more than a friend, you can wait until your friend confirm it to you. If your friend becomes extra sweet and thoughtful, became extra sweet and thoughtful also, that way, your friend will have courage to tell you what he or she feels.

If you don’t like the acts of your friend and you just want to maintain the friendship, distance a little, but not too much, that will give your friend a signal that you don’t like a relationship more than friendship.