10 BEST MOMENTS OF LIFE

(1) To fall in love...

(2) To clear your last exam

(3) To wake up and realized it is still possible to sleep

(4) To get a phone call saying class has been cancelled

(5) To see an old friend again and to feel that things have not changed

(6) To touch the finger of a newly born child

(7) Waiting for a call or message from your loved one when you are alone

(8) The moment you get the toy you have always wanted

(9) Speaking to the special one on the phone while standing in front of a mirror 

 you can write up the last one... the moment you felt i left out

Are you ready for marriage?

Are You Ready for Marriage?

Is getting married right for you? What do you need to know before you walk down the aisle? Dr. Phil advises you to take a closer look at yourself and the relationship before tying the knot. Ask yourself these questions.

Why are you getting married?Be honest and evaluate the reasons behind your engagement. Write a list of pros and cons about your partner and your relationship. If you have to talk yourself into marriage " don't. If you have to talk your fiancé into marriage " no way! Make sure you are not getting married to escape or avoid something. Have you just always wanted to get married? That's not a good enough reason. If you get nauseous shopping for a wedding dress or seem to be sick every time you have to meet the caterer, listen to your body.

Do you know and trust your partner's personal history?The best predictor of future behavior is relevant past behavior. Learn from it. How has your partner behaved in past relationships? How have they behaved with you? What has your partner learned about marriage from his/her parents? Look closely at your partner's parents " children learn what they live.

Have you planned a marriage " or just a wedding? Cake, flowers and fine china are all exciting, but there's more at stake than one day. Your wedding is a day; a marriage is a lifetime. You don't just want to be married, you want to be happily married. Think about the next 50 years. Put at least the same amount of time and effort that you are using to plan your wedding into planning your marriage. Develop an emotional prenuptial agreement with your partner, outlining how you'll handle children, discipline, sex, money, division of labor, religion, careers, retirement, in-laws, geography, etc. If you don't plan for and discuss these topics, you won't be able to successfully merge two lives together.

Are you investing more than you can afford to lose?Look at the cost of your relationship. If you have to give up your friends, career, or family, for example, the cost is too high. If it all falls apart, are you going to be emotionally bankrupt? It is better to be healthy alone, than sick with someone else.

Have you identified and communicated your needs and expectations?Know yourself. You can't determine if somebody is good for you if you don't know your own needs. It's not selfish to have goals within a relationship. Express your needs and expectations now " not when you're already in the marriage. What are your absolute deal breakers? Do you know your partner's?

HOW TO BELIEVE IN YOURSELF

One of the most common problems with individuals today is that they do not believe in themselves.

Many people constantly doubt their abilities, skills, talents, opinions, and numerous other aspects that makes them who they are. For these individuals, a lot of precious time is wasted on this demeaning method of thinking.

If you are looking to improve yourself, your life, the way that others see you, and the way that you see yourself, it is important to understand the importance of believing in yourself. If you miss the opportunity of accomplishing this very important goal, you will continue to miss opportunities all through your life.

I am not perfect too, i am still learning to do that., i am a very shy person, i am always alone, don't have real friends only imaginary friends but they believed so much in me. WHY? i do a lot of facebooking, tweeting and bbm, more connected to the social world than the world. that is another article i will write about later, . CREATING YOUR OWN WORLD.

When you believe in your abilities, skills, talents, and value, you always  develop a new logic to life. you understand that for every action there is definitely a reaction, however, each reaction can be a positive and fulfilling experience.

you have a high level of self-confidence, you become quite motivated, and  understand the power of positive thinking.

Here, you will discover a couple of ways that you can create a positive self-belief. If you are looking to improve yourself, your life, and the general circumstances of your life, this my write up can may help you because it worked for me.

One of the first methods of learning to believe in yourself is learning to take a close look at yourself and being able to identify the potential that you have.

Many individuals experience many negative situations throughout their life that may lead them to believe that they pose no value to themselves or others. Usually, these thoughts are created by listening to the harsh assumptions and words of an individual who is relatively close – such as a friend, or a family member.

As a result of these negative assumptions and harsh words, a person may start to actually believe what others are saying. It is important to understand that everyone has a right to their opinions, but these opinions are often only one viewpoint. Furthermore, many opinions are wrong.

One of the second methods of learning to believe in yourself is to overcome the obstacle of fear. Many individuals are frightened to attempt a new challenge or task because they are afraid of failing and not succeeding.

However, any individual with a high level of self worth will quickly inform you that it is better to try, fail, and learn to succeed than it is to not try, failing, and not learning to succeed.

If you are able to keep in mind that failing is just another form of winning, you are creating a strong belief in yourself. Those that fail in the attempts that they make will learn from the mistakes of the attempt. However, those that never try to attempt anything at all will stagnate in their personal growth.

The third method to building the belief of yourself is to challenge yourself. In order to do this, you should establish a list of items that you are thoroughly convinced that you are unable to do. Once you do this, you should start tackling each task, one by one. You will quickly find that you are able to do much more than you ever imagined that you could.

Soon, you will discover that the list that you initially created is getting smaller and smaller. This is a great way to prove to yourself that you do offer something to yourself, your friends, your family, and your world. This will help you establish the ability to believe in yourself.

Best Regards,

fisayo george

I CAN READ IT.. CAN YOU???

fi yuo cna raed tihs, yuo hvae a sgtrane mnid too. Cna yuo raed tihs? Olny smoe plepoe can. I cdnuolt blveiee that I cluod aulaclty uesdnatnrd waht I was rdanieg. The phaonmneal pweor of the hmuan mind, aoccdrnig to a rscheearch at cmabrigde uinervtisy, it dseno't. Mtaetr in waht oerdr the ltteres in the wrod are, the olny iproamtnt tihng is taht the frsit and lsat ltteer be in the rghit pclae. The rset can be a taotl mses and you can sitll raed it whottuit a pboerlm. This is bcuseae the huamn mniddeos not raed ervey lteter by istlef, but the wrod as a wlohe. Azanming huh? Yaeh and I awlyas tghuhot slpeling was ipnorantt!  If you can raed tihs sahre it.

LOVE

Once upon a time there was an island where all the feelings lived; Happiness, Sadness, Knowledge, and all the others., including Love. One day it was announced to all of the feelings that the island was going to sink to the bottom of the ocean. So all the feelings prepared their boats to leave. Love was the only one that stayed. She wanted to preserve the island until the last possible moment. When the island was almost totally under, Love decided it was time to leave.She began looking for someone to ask for help. Just then Riches was passing by in a grand boat. Love asked, "Riches, Can I come with you on your boat?"Riches answered, "I'm sorry, but there is a lot of silver and gold on my boat and there would be no room for you."Then Love decided to ask Vanity who was passing in a beautiful vessel for help. Love cried out, "Vanity, help me please." I can't help you", Vanity said, "You are all wet and will damage my beautiful boat."Next, Love saw Sadness
passing by. Love said, "Sadness, please let me go with you." Sadness answered, "Love, I'm sorry, but, I just need to be alone now."Then, Love saw Happiness. Love cried out, "Happiness, please take me with you." But Happiness was so overjoyed that he didn't hear Love calling to him. Love began to cry. Then, she heard a voice say, "Come Love, I will take you with me." It was an elder. Love felt so blessed and overjoyed that she forgot to ask the elder his name. When they arrived on land the elder went on his way. Love realized how much she owed the elder. Love then found Knowledge and asked, "Who was it that helped me?" "It was Time", Knowledge answered. "But why did Time help me when no one else would?", Love asked. Knowledge smiled and with deep wisdom and sincerity, answered, "Because only Time is capable of understanding how great Love is. Only Time can tell who YOU truly love and who truly loves U.

A BEAUTIFUL LOVE STORY

A beautiful true love story 

One day, a young guy and a young girl fell in love.

But the guy came from a poor family. The girl’s parents weren’t too happy.

So the young man decided not only to court the girl but to court her parents as well. In time, the parents saw that he was a good man and was worthy of their daughter’s hand.

But there was another problem: The man was a soldier. Soon, war broke out and he was being sent overseas for a year. The week before he left, the man knelt on his knee and asked his lady love, “Will you marry me?” She wiped a tear, said yes, and they were engaged. They agreed that when he got back in one year, they would get married.

But tragedy struck. A few days after he left, the girl had a major vehicular accident. It was a head-on collision.

When she woke up in the hospital, she saw her father and mother crying. Immediately, she knew there was something wrong.

She later found out that she suffered brain injury. The part of her brain that controlled her face muscles was damaged. Her once lovely face was now disfigured. She cried as she saw herself in the mirror. “Yesterday, I was beautiful. Today, I’m a monster.” Her body was also covered with so many ugly wounds.

Right there and then, she decided to release her fiancé from their promise. She knew he wouldn’t want her anymore. She would forget about him and never see him again.

For one year, the soldier wrote many letters—but she wouldn’t answer. He phoned her many times but she wouldn’t return her calls.

But after one year, the mother walked into her room and announced, “He’s back from the war.”

The girl shouted, “No! Please don’t tell him about me. Don’t tell him I’m here!”

The mother said, “He’s getting married,” and handed her a wedding invitation.

The girl’s heart sank. She knew she still loved him—but she had to forget him now.

With great sadness, she opened the wedding invitation.

And then she saw her name on it!

Confused, she asked, “What is this?”

That was when the young man entered her room with a bouquet of flowers. He knelt beside her and asked, “Will you marry me?”

The girl covered her face with her hands and said, “I’m ugly!”

The man said, “Without your permission, your mother sent me your photos. When I saw your photos, I realized that nothing has changed. You’re still the person I fell in love. You’re still as beautiful as ever. Because I love you!

WHAT DO YOU PERCEIVE AS THE SEVEN WONDERS OF THE WORLD? A must read....

A group of students was asked to list what they thought were the present "Seven Wonders of the World."

Though there were some disagreements, the following received the most votes:

1. Egypt's Great Pyramids

2. Taj Mahal

3. Grand Canyon

4. Panama Canal

5. Empire State Building

6. St. Peter's Basilica

7. China's Great Wall

While gathering the votes, the teacher noticed that one quiet student hadn't turned in her paper yet.

So she asked the girl if she was having trouble with her list.

The girl replied, "Yes, a little. I couldn't quite make up my mind because there were so many."

The teacher said, "Well, tell us what you have, and maybe we can help."

The girl hesitated, then read,

"I think the 'Seven Wonders of the World' are:

1. to see

2. to hear

3. to touch

4. to taste

5. to feel

6. to laugh

7. and to love."

The room was so quiet you could have heard a pin drop.

The things we overlook as simple and ordinary and that we take for granted are truly wondrous!

A gentle reminder - that the most precious things in life cannot be built by hand or bought by man.

Married or not… you should read this. Marriage.

“When I got home that night as my wife served dinner, I held her hand and said, I’ve got something to tell you. She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.

Suddenly I didn’t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want a divorce. I raised the topic calmly. She didn’t seem to be annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why?

I avoided her question. This made her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man! That night, we didn’t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer; she had lost my heart to Jane. I didn’t love her anymore. I just pitied her!

With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. The woman who had spent ten years of her life with me had become a stranger. I felt sorry for her wasted time, resources and energy but I could not take back what I had said for I loved Jane so dearly. Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer now.

The next day, I came back home very late and found her writing something at the table. I didn’t have supper but went straight to sleep and fell asleep very fast because I was tired after an eventful day with Jane. When I woke up, she was still there at the table writing. I just did not care so I turned over and was asleep again.

In the morning she presented her divorce conditions: she didn’t want anything from me, but needed a month’s notice before the divorce. She requested that in that one month we both struggle to live as normal a life as possible. Her reasons were simple: our son had his exams in a month’s time and she didn’t want to disrupt him with our broken marriage.

This was agreeable to me. But she had something more, she asked me to recall how I had carried her into out bridal room on our wedding day. She requested that every day for the month’s duration I carry her out of our bedroom to the front door ever morning. I thought she was going crazy. Just to make our last days together bearable I accepted her odd request.

I told Jane about my wife’s divorce conditions. . She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she applies, she has to face the divorce, she said scornfully.

My wife and I hadn’t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. So when I carried her out on the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mommy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly; don’t tell our son about the divorce. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for the bus to work. I drove alone to the office.

On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on my chest. I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn’t looked at this woman carefully for a long time. I realized she was not young any more. There were fine wrinkles on her face, her hair was graying! Our marriage had taken its toll on her. For a minute I wondered what I had done to her.

On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I felt a sense of intimacy returning. This was the woman who had given ten years of her life to me. On the fifth and sixth day, I realized that our sense of intimacy was growing again. I didn’t tell Jane about this. It became easier to carry her as the month slipped by. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger.

She was choosing what to wear one morning. She tried on quite a few dresses but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, all my dresses have grown bigger. I suddenly realized that she had grown so thin, that was the reason why I could carry her more easily.

Suddenly it hit me… she had buried so much pain and bitterness in her heart. Subconsciously I reached out and touched her head.

Our son came in at the moment and said, Dad, it’s time to carry mom out. To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had become an essential part of his life. My wife gestured to our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face away because I was afraid I might change my mind at this last minute. I then held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom, through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly; it was just like our wedding day.

But her much lighter weight made me sad. On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step. Our son had gone to school. I held her tightly and said, I hadn’t noticed that our life lacked intimacy. I drove to office…. jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my mind…I walked upstairs. Jane opened the door and I said to her, Sorry, Jane, I do not want the divorce anymore.

She looked at me, astonished, and then touched my forehead. Do you have a fever? She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Jane, I said, I won’t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn’t value the details of our lives, not because we didn’t love each other anymore. Now I realize that since I carried her into my home on our wedding day I am supposed to hold her until death do us apart. Jane seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into tears. I walked downstairs and drove away. At the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet of flowers for my wife. The salesgirl asked me what to write on the card. I smiled and wrote, I’ll carry you out every morning until death do us apart.

That evening I arrived home, flowers in my hands, a smile on my face, I run up stairs, only to find my wife in the bed - dead. My wife had been fighting CANCER for months and I was so busy with Jane to even notice. She knew that she would die soon and she wanted to save me from the whatever negative reaction from our son, in case we push through with the divorce.— At least, in the eyes of our son—- I’m a loving husband….

The small details of your lives are what really matter in a relationship. It is not the mansion, the car, property, the money in the bank. These create an environment conducive for happiness but cannot give happiness in themselves.

So find time to be your spouse’s friend and do those little things for each other that build intimacy. Do have a real happy marriage!

If you don’t share this, nothing will happen to you.

If you do, you just might save a marriage. Many of life’s failures are people who did not realize how close they were to success when they gave up.”

Live your dream, have wishes come true and desires satisfied. At the same time transform your life into one of love, happiness, joy and success.

Too good to be true? Well that's what I thought too. Then I discovered something that forced me to think differently

What I am about to share with you, has helped me many many times over the years, so much so, I still have trouble believing it myself.

Every person on this planet has a dream, a wish, things and situations they strongly desire. But a dream, we believe is just a dream, is something out o reach, beyond our grasp. Is it anfy wonder we don't have the slightest clue of how, or in fact if, we can bring those dreams, wishes, and desires into our reality?

So let me guess now, you're curious. The reason you've arrived on this page, is to find out how, or if, it's possible to make your desires, wishes or dream come true, right?

Now I'm not claiming to be a Genie with a magic lamp, far from it. Be that as it may, I do know of a way you can make the things you long for come into your life. I'm going to share my secret with you right now.

You may think it's crazy or I'm crazy. It is and I am but who cares? It works. Okay let's get serious. Let's get back to why you are here. To begin with, if you don't have a particular dream or wish in mind right now, don't panic, you'll very soon conjure one up.

What you must do now, is to put all your ideas of how you normally go about bringing things and situations into your life, on to one side. Forget WORK in the normal sense of the word. Replace it with PLAY and look upon what you are about to do as the most important and effective kind of PLAY possible.

The next thing you must do is to erase the words STRESS and STRAIN from your thoughts and your vocabulary. Replace them with the word MAGIC. I use the word magic for the simple reason I am unable to come up with a better one.

So what is it exactly you are going to do? Basically, you are going to PLAY around with a bit of MAGIC. Don't worry it's safe and it doesn't get you involved in a 'burning at the stake' offence!

Just so you can keep a grip here, let me explain in very simple terms what MAGIC really is. Magic is in fact a creative and miraculous force we all have the ability to harness and to control.

Starting right now add the word CRAZY to how you would describe yourself. If you are already a little crazy fine.If not just go along with it and pretend that you are, for a little while at least.

What you are about to do is not usual. So don't go telling other folks what you're up too, they may think you've gone completely batty!

Did you know that for the most part materialists, the doers of this world, view folks who spend their time dreaming and wishing, as residing in the aptly named location of la-la land?

What I am going to ask you to do now is to be serious for a minute and concentrate on some, if not all, of your most important needs. I also would like you to realise all of your needs can be met if you will do what I suggest. Believe me this is serious stuff, even though it's crazy!

At the same time I am going to ask you to keep focused on the material world, on material objects and upon materiality as a whole, in a way very few materialists have the ability to do. Don't get into a tizwaz, it can be done and you're gonna do it!

Let's face it, to survive in the material world, you're a complete and utter dead loss if you are unable to meet your material needs. On the other hand, if you spend all of your time dreaming, wishing and living within the realms of your imagination then you've got about as much chance of meeting your needs as a snowball in hell.

The material world, whether you like it or not, is where you are at, it's where we are all at. The thing to 'realise' is that you have an inner ability to wish and to 'conjure up' material stuff, instead of having to flog yourself to death in order to meet those material, emotional and spiritual needs.

This, of course, will only become believable to you, as and when your dreams and wishes begin to come true. Or, as you begin to experience them in your day to day life as opposed to being 'pretty pictures' in your head. It does of course, involve a little bit of MAGIC to help it all along.

If you hang out in the material world without 'MAGIC' inevitably it becomes a fight for survival, a fight to stay afloat on a sea of the ever-increasing demands of life. There's not a whole lot of magic in doing that is there now?

Maybe, so far in life, you have had a couple of weird and wonderful things happen to you, most of us have. The problem is you have no control as to when these events occur. So how's about if you can get the things you need by request??

Okay this is the way it works. First thing to figure is, what is it you really need? I don't mean what you 'fancy' either. A fancy is only a passing thing. I want you to be serious, at least in the beginning. You can get down to your fancies when you have in your possession all the things you REALLY need.

You'll be amazed how it works and you're going to fall off the floor when you find out how simple and easy it is, and I promise you'll love doing it too.

OK NOW FOR IT. GET READY----STEADY----GO FOR IT!

So go on, get some paper and something to write with

Now I'd like you to think very carefully about what you are going to write. Consider the consequences of your requests not only on yourself but on others as well. Don't think in terms of it's too big, too much, I don't deserve it or it's impossible.

Be honourable, be truthful, be wise, don't break the law, be happy, be joyful and most of all know for sure your needs will be met, expect it.

When you have thought carefully make a list of the most needy things. They are to become your, dreams, your wishes, your prayers. When I first did this it took me two days to figure out what I really needed! It's more difficult than you think to make a request for something you really do NEED - To make a list of priorities in order of importance.

You can't wish for any old thing, it must be incredibly important to you. For some reason, I have so far been unable to fathom, MAGIC doesn't seem to work too well with trivial, trifling, piddling, unimportant or insignificant things. It's probably because MAGIC is constantly busy and doesn't have time to spend on piddly things!

See what I mean about being a bit crazy? And remember you're not to tell anyone else what you are doing, well not yet anyway.

Right, after you have made your list please go through the following steps.

Step 1. Repeat out loud each of your requests.

Step 2. Rewrite each request down on a separate piece of paper and fold it up.

Step 3. Get a box or a tin or some other thing you can lock securely or something without a lock you can keep in a place that is completely private and secure. Now place your requests in the box or tin.

TIPS:
In writing your requests say I have ----- I am----- be positive. Don't say 'I am so fat it's making me ill I need to lose weight'. Say instead I am beautifully slim and attractive'. Don't say 'I'm broke I need more money', say instead 'I have more money than I shall ever need'.

Whatever you do, don't write the word WANT because you will remain in the state of WANTING. If you change your request to I have or I am, you change to the state of having, doing or being what you asked for.

As a matter of fact it's a good idea to get out of the habit of thinking and saying the word WANT. Completely remove it from your vocabulary. The same rule applies in every instance.

One word of caution, it's probably not the best idea to go around saying to folks, I have a Mercedes Benz, whilst it's presence is in the process of creation. You can say it and think it to yourself as much as you like. And the more the better because this reinforces your written requests.

MORE TIPS:BE SPECIFIC include details lots and lots of em, how much, how big, how many, where, when, who, colour, size eta. Don't ask HOW any of your needs are to be met, and don't even begin to try and fathom it either.

GUESS WHAT? MORE TIPS:THINK BIG don't place limits, boundaries, don't use if's, but's or why's. It's one of the easiest things in the world to sabotage yourself. For instance, if you write a request for the perfect mate and follow it up by quietly saying to yourself, 'nobody as amazing as that could possibly exist, or nobody as good as that would ever look at me'. That's sabotage pure and simple, Even though you don't write it down as a part of your written request it gets tagged on to it. Just like a PS. Only it completely screws up your original request, do you see what I mean?

STILL MORE TIPS:DON'T INTERFERE: Please remember this system works, don't interfere with the dynamic process of energy you have set into motion. Every day when you wake up you jump start a mass of dynamic energy. Know this truth.

Don't set negative energies into motion as soon as you get up in the morning, or any other part of the day for that matter, cos they will come back at you as sure as eggs are eggs. It may not be today, tomorrow or even next week. But mark my words, one day, those negative energies will come along and wallop you on the side of the head when you are least expecting it! And you'll be left asking, what's up?

AND YES, EVEN MORE TIPS.IN DEALING WITH OTHER PEOPLE: Another thing to be aware of is that where other people are concerned it's a little more tricky to get them to do what you want. Say for instance, if you want to be on a better understanding with someone you are having problems with, say 'Help me to find a way of developing a good relationship with ------------?

However, if you would like to have a close personal relationship with another person and they make it clear they aren't the least bit interested it could get even more tricky. You may find it impossible to change the way THEY feel about you. Personal relationships are usually based on a magnetic kind of chemistry. It doesn't always work both ways the best thing you can do is to send them loving thoughts, give all negative thoughts the boot. Love will break any barrier but if the other person is of a different mind set, they may or may not come into the proximity of closeness with you. and nothing you can do will change that. If THEY choose to change the way they feel about YOU and if anything can do it love can, but they have to feel the love too, then and only then, will there be a chance for it to work out.

A HELPFUL TIP:ASKING FOR HELP: If you have a problem in any area of life say 'I have valuable help in setting up my business'. 'I have the perfect business partner'. 'I have help to create a successful marketing strategy'. 'I have found the exact right person to run my office'. 'I have located a great cleaner to do my cleaning'. 'I have the perfect person to look after my kids'. I have found the perfect solution to my problem etc.

Do not fall into the trap of focusing on problems, rather focus on solutions.

Say for instance, if you find yourself out of work and need a job say 'I have the perfect job with a great company and a salary that more than meets all my financial needs?

What happens as you put these kind of statements down on paper, you are claiming what you need. As you do this, a much more powerful energy is set into motion than when you just think it alone. The more ways you reinforce the energy the more powerful is the force you are able to set into motion.

Everything first begins with the idea of it, a building, a book, a spacecraft. It first begins with a thought followed up by a plan, an outline or a blueprint. Your written requests are for something you have chosen to come into your life. You first have an idea a thought of what it is that you need, but you personally don't go about making a plan at this stage. What happens instead, is that you give your thought, your idea, your wish, your dream, over to a greater force of energy, an energy, that you must under no circumstance interfere with.

After a while you will notice events begin to take place that appear to come out of the blue. These are events that bring opportunity, bring help your way, assist you, save you, protect you, guide you, inspire you, energise you, galvanise you.They all happen in a very magical, miraculous way because they come to you. You don't have to go after them.

If you play with energy in this way, you'll make it a whole lot easier on yourself. Instead of you having to fight your way through life and burn up your mind, body and spirit, you'll be handing the process over to a far more powerful source of energy.

A VERY SHORT TIP:REMEMBER TO ASK: You can and must carefully choose and make firm requests for all those things you desire to come into your life.

ANOTHER SHORT TIP:ADDING TO AND ADJUSTING YOUR REQUESTS: You can do this anytime you feel like it. Make your review times special times, remove the requests which, have so far been filled and let the others remain. You can add as many items as often as you like.

A REALLY USEFUL TIP:HOW TO MAKE SURE YOU GET ALL THE THINGS YOU REALLY DO DESIRE BUT HAVEN'T THOUGHT OF YET: Write the following; everything I desire comes to me, as and when I need it.

A MEDIUM SIZED KNOWLEDGEABLE TIPKEEP YOURSELF ON TRACK: Everything that happens in the Universe is a result of the movement and an exchange of energies. Every time you make a wish or have a dream and reinforce it by writing it down you are setting a creative and MAGICAL energy into motion.

Just be sure to watch the thinking part of the process and don't think about what you don't desire to happen. What might go wrong. Problems within the economic climate. What others might say. Keep yourself on TRACK by keeping your wishes, dreams and desires alive.

I have a magic box myself and it has dozens of wishes and dreams in the form of written requests in it. Once in a while I get them out and find quite a few of them have already been filled. The real MAGIC of it is that if you'd asked me when I made my requests how they would come about I would have been forced to confess, I didn't have a clue. See what I mean by not having to work on it? Of course, when events do occur and stuff starts happening you have to figure out what you're going to do about it, AND DO IT.

THE BEST, I SAVED IT TILL LAST TIP:EXPECT RESULTS: You must EXPECT the things you've requested to come to you. If you don't expect them , then they won't appear, because that my friend will be the PS you have tagged on to your order. On the energy level upon which you are working, every-thing is taken literally. So don't mess with your wishes by adding a PS here and a PS there.

Off you go, get wishing, make your list, get your box, make out individual requests, READ THEM OUT LOUD, fold em up, put them in your box, lock it and forget it.

DO IT NOW

How to Find Your Passion

If you could do one thing to transform your life, I would highly recommend it be to find something you’re passionate about, and do it for a living.

Now, this isn’t as easy as it sounds, but it’s well worth the effort. If you dread going to your job, or find yourself constantly lacking motivation, or find what you’re doing dull and repetitive, you need to start looking for a new job. Staying in your current job will not only continue to make you unhappy, but you are not realizing your full potential in life.

Imagine this instead: you get up early, jumping out of bed, excited to go to work. You might put in more hours than the average person, but it doesn’t seem difficult to you, because your work hours just zoom right by. You are often in that state of mind often referred to as “flow,” where you can lose track of the world and time, losing yourself in the task at hand. Work is not work as many people refer to it, but something that is fun and interesting and exciting. It’s not a “job” but a passion.

If you’ve got a job you dislike, or even hate, this will sound like a pipe dream to you. And if you never put in the effort to find what you’re passionate about, you’re right: such a thing will never be possible. But dare to dream, dare to imagine the possibilities, and dare to actually search for what you love, and it is not only a possibility, but a probability.

How can you find what you’re passionate about? Here are some suggestions:

• Is there something you already love doing? Do you have a hobby, or something you loved doing as a child, but never considered it as a possibility? Whether it’s reading comic books, collecting something, making something, creating or building, there is probably a way you could do it for a living. Open a comic book shop, or create a comic book site online. If there’s already something you love doing, you’re ahead of the game. Now you just need to research the possibilities of making money from it.
• What do you spend hours reading about? For myself, when I get passionate about something, I’ll read about it for hours on end. I’ll buy books and magazines. I’ll spend days on the Internet finding out more. There may be a few possibilities here for you … and all of them are possible career paths. Don’t close your mind to these topics. Look into them.
• Brainstorm. Nothing comes to mind right away? Well, get out a sheet of paper, and start writing down ideas. Anything that comes to mind, write it down. Look around your house, on your computer, on your bookshelf, for inspirations, and just write them down. There are no bad ideas at this stage. Write everything down, and evaluate them later.
• Ask around, and surf for possibilities. Ask other people for ideas. See what others have discovered as their passions. Look all over the Internet for ideas. The more possibilities you find, the more likely your chances of finding your true passion.
• Don’t quit your job just yet. If you find your calling, your passion, don’t just turn in your resignation tomorrow. It’s best to stay in your job while you’re researching the possibilities. If you can do your passion as a side job, and build up the income for a few months or a year, that’s even better. It gives you a chance to build up some savings (and if you’re going into business for yourself, you’ll need that cash reserve), while practicing the skills you need. See below for more.
• Give it a try first. It’s best to actually test your new idea before jumping into it as a career. Do it as a hobby or side job at first, so that you can see if it’s really your true calling. You may be passionate about it for a few days, but where the rubber meets the road is whether you’re passionate about it for at least a few months. If you pass this test, you have probably found it.
• Do as much research as possible. Know as much about your passion as possible. If this has been a passion for awhile, you may have already been doing this. At any rate, do even more research. Read every website possible on the topic, and buy the best books available. Find other people, either in your area or on the Internet, who do what you want to do for a living, and quiz them about the profession. How much do they make? What training and education did they need? What skills are necessary? How did they get their start? What recommendations do they have. Often you’ll find that people are more than willing to give advice.
• Practice, and practice, and practice some more. Don’t go into it with amateur skill level. If you want to make money — to be a professional — you need to have professional skills. Get very good at your future career and you will make money at it. Practice for hours on end. If it’s something you love, the practice should be something you want to do.
• Never quit trying. Can’t find your passion at first? Give up after a few days and you’re sure to fail. Keep trying, for months on end if necessary, and you’ll find it eventually. Thought you found your passion but you got tired of it? No problem! Start over again and find a new passion. There may be more than one passion in your lifetime, so explore all the possibilities. Found your passion but haven’t been successful making a living at it? Don’t give up. Keep trying, and try again, until you succeed. Success doesn’t come easy, so giving up early is a sure way to fail. Keep trying, and you’ll get there.

What I’ve outlined here is a lot of work … but it will be the best investment you’ve ever made. Follow your passion, and you will be truly happy and incredibly fulfilled. I wish you the wildest successes of your wildest dreams!

Creating the “future you”

Who are you?

Before you choose any approach to changing the way you act as a person, it’s a good idea to understand as much as you can about the mechanisms that make up that complex and continually varying creature that is you. These are also part of the material you must work with, even though you probably rarely think about them in any conscious way.

There’s the essential problem. You don’t think about them. You think about your skills, your capacities, your hopes, dreams, and fears, but you almost never direct your attention to the ways your mind and emotions come together to create all these. You’re so used to them—they’re so much a part of who you are—that you take them for granted. Yet they, together with chance, are what will decide your future; and all your other actions and plans will count for almost nothing if these essentials don’t co-operate.

It’s worth taking time out to stop and think about who you are, what you want from life, and whether the way you’re behaving today is the best way to get there. Take this time for yourself. You’re worth it. Consider your values—don’t just list them in your head and pass on, really think about them. Do you live up to them? If you don’t, quit blaming yourself—or anyone else—and try to work out why that should be. Maybe they aren’t truly your values? Maybe other values are more important to you?

What really matters to you?

Don’t let yourself be confused between values as ideals and values as choices. These are distinct categories. One contains the values that people aspire to (and talk about). The other holds the values people live by (and don’t usually draw attention to). The two are rarely precisely the same.

The values people aspire to—let’s call them talk values—get most of the attention. They appear in lists of desirable qualities for life, leadership, and organizations. The values people use in everyday choices—I’ll call those action values—are rarely mentioned or explored, though they’re far more important.

How can you make your hopes come true?

In fact, most people are not even aware of the impact their action values have on everything they think, say, or do. Each time you face a choice, those values tell you what feels right. Since most people choose emotionally and justify their decision rationally afterwards, what they choose is largely determined by their action values, not by reason or logic.

Many people read inspirational books, or listen to speakers explain the benefits of positive values, then give up when they can manage a few, halting actions based on the changed outlook. Gradually, they slip back into their old patterns, maybe emerging as a fresh book or conference gives them a little more motivation. Why did this happen? Because they were working mostly on their talk values. They didn’t integrate their learning into their daily action values, so any alterations in behavior stayed at the level of hopes and aspirations. Talk values count for little until they make it through to the level where they become habits.

If you want to change your life, you need to understand and work with making your aspirational, talk values and your everyday,action values line up. Try focusing on what you do, not just what you believe you should do. People’s actions better reveal their true values than any number of fine words. Only repeated actions stand any chance of changing your life.

Take all the time that you need and do it right. This is your future that you’re working on.

How to Enjoy What You Are Doing No Matter What

1. Look at the long-term benefit

Often, we need to do something we don’t like as a part of something larger which will give us big benefit in the future. For example, we take the modules we don’t like in college because it will eventually earn us a degree that gives us the opportunity to get a good job. It is unlikely that we need to do something we don’t like if there is no long-term benefit involved. By looking at the long-term benefit you will eventually acquire, the activity won’t look as bad as it is.

2. Find what you can learn from it

I believe there is always something we can learn from every experience. If we can’t find one, that’s maybe just because we are too focused on the negative side rather than the positive. For example, European History which Joel talked about may help us learn from thousands of years of experiences so that we do not need to repeat the same mistakes people did. Besides, it can give us more potential common ground to connect with new people (especially with those who like history). If you really can’t find any, at least the experience teaches you to be persistent in any situation. That’s a valuable lesson in itself.

3. Think of doing it for someone you love

Love is a strong source of motivation. If you do something for someone you love, it’s very likely that you can stand even the most boring activity and even enjoy the process. So keep in mind that you do not do this for yourself, but for someone you love.

4. Enjoy the interaction with the people

Your source of fun and enjoyment is not just the activity, but also the interaction with the people there. While the activity itself might not be very exciting, there might be a lot of rich experiences you can get from the interaction with the people. That’s also one reason to enjoy what you are doing.

5. Think and say something positive

If you keep thinking or saying that you don’t like an activity, there is no way you can enjoy it. Always think and say something positive. The points above helps you find positive things you can think and say about. You may think of the long-term benefit you will get, or the nice interaction you have with the people. Focus on these positive things; don’t ever think or say something negative..

6. Gather with passionate people

While you may not always have the luxury to choose who you work with, whenever possible you should choose to gather with positive people. Choose the people who you know are passionate about the activity. Their passion would be contagious. They will give you the energy to stay positive and even enjoy what you are doing.